As the 00's (what else can we call it?) draw to a close and the new decade/year waits just around the corner for us, time for a bit of reflection and resolution. To all you Lazy Brides preparing for your wedding next year, may I suggest the following resolutions for your consideration…
1) Have "the money" talk with your partner – the biggest cause of marital angst is money or specifically, lack of it. If you're a shopaholic and your bunny bear is a miser, there is gonna be trouble down the road, guaranteed. Be brave, be adult and do it now. Sit down and discuss what your life goals are – where do you see yourself at age 70? At 50? And how are you going to manage your money to achieve those goals? I highly recommend I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi (I think everyone in their 20's and 30's should read it and implement his simple program). Have the talk, make some plans and save yourself a lot of grief down the road.
2) Don't become "that" bride – don't lose who you are by focusing every breathing moment on your wedding. Nobody at work really wants to hear about the intricacies of your gown's lacework. Be excited but don't let your life become one-note as it gets boring for you and everyone else pretty quickly.
3) Respect your vendors – they are professional and experienced, which is why you hired them (if not, look elsewhere). Trust that they will provide you with the bet solutions to make your vision a reality. Have open, honest communication with them so they really understand what you want/don't want. Be nice and the doors will fly wide open for you. People want to help others who are respectful and have built a relationship with them. As my mother always said, you get more flies with honey than with vinegar.
4) Be realistic – live and plan within your budget. Don't expect your vendors to come down on their price because you want a bigger wedding than you can afford. Hate to break it to you, buttercup, but every single bride is in the same boat, whether they have a $2000 or $200,000 budget. There is always a fancier, pricier option and every single wedding requires budget decisions/sacrifices.
5) Give something back – yes, the wedding day is all about you but it is also about community. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends celebrating your love so why not share the joy? A few small steps can make a difference in others' lives. Doesn't have to be big or expensive. Think of things as simple as giving a donation in lieu of favors, choosing to use an artisan's handiwork over something mass-produced in a sweatshop overseas, dropping off the flowers to a woman's shelter after the wedding, serving locally-produced food, asking the venue to recycle everything possible from your event…small steps but ones that can have lasting impact. Imagine if you and every one of the 2.1 million brides for 2010 did something to give back to their community – what a wonderful world it could be!
6) Relax and have fun – no matter how much you sweat, worry and plan, something is going to go slightly askew. That's Real Life. So prepare for it. Have your Plan B's in place, yes, but resolve to let go and enjoy your day rather than fixating on the minutae. If you're having a good time, the rest of your guests will as well.
Happy planning to all and may 2010 be the best year yet and your wedding a beautiful and funfilled experience!