Whom to tip and how much seems to be one of the most confusing areas of wedding planning for couples. Without further adieu, here is the skinny on gratuities from the queen of etiquette, Peggy Post (Emily Post’s great-grand daughter-in-law).
In short, professionals are only tipped for extraordinary service. Business owners (ie videographer, florist, photographer, planner) are not expected to be tipped. However, if you feel they have gone above and beyond for you, by all means feel free to give them one.
Often, the restaurant/hotel/caterer has a tip for the waitstaff/bartenders included in the bill already. Be sure to ask first. You may also request that the gratuity be included in the bill for the limousine driver and catering staff up front.
Be sure to include an area in your budget for tips as they can add up!!
In short, a tip is a small token of your appreciation and if someone made your day special, let them know.